3 Steps to Keep Infidelity From Entering Your Marriage

 

Infidelity in marriage. It is one of the more painful emotional experiences one can go through. If you are reading this today, you most likely either have a spouse that has cheated on you, or perhaps are concerned that he or she might be. In this article, we will focus specifically on ways to prevent infidelity from entering your marriage in the first place.

Hopefully at this point you are in a position to simply analyze and enhance your relationship and not already looking at it through the prism of an affair. Often times infidelity in marriage occurs because the cheating spouse finds it easier to live in the fantasy world of an affair than to deal with the "real" issues facing them at home.
Regardless of whether your spouse has gone through with an affair, if you have noticed signs that they may indeed be contemplating it, then it is likely your marriage has legitimate issues that need to be addressed. Let's look at some ways to remove the allure from outside of your marriage and work to solve the problems from within. Keep in mind, these steps will work whether you are trying to prevent infidelity in marriage, or have already experienced it.

1. Assess Your Emotional Connection
As always, communication is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. You and your spouse may realize at this time that you do not have the perfect marriage and there are areas where your relationship has faltered. Discuss with your spouse what these areas may be. Are you feeling neglected? Do you feel like you are being taken for granted?
It is possible this step is difficult due to the fact that your communication between each other has broken down. But take a good hard assessment of where you and your spouse are and where things stand with your emotional connection.

 2. Understand the Types of Communication
Did you know there is more than one type of communication? It is possible that you and your spouse have great verbal communication, but are lacking in the other types. You need to be just as strong in non-verbal communication as you are in the verbal type if your relationship is to retain its intimacy.
Think back to the early days of when you were first dating. Think of how you couldn't keep your hands off of each other. The constant hand holding, the arm around the waist, the goose in the butt every now and then! Real life and complacency may have gotten in the way, but you need to make an effort to strengthen these non-verbal communication methods if you are to prevent infidelity in marriage. Start to get out more with your spouse. Go to the movies. Go out to dinner. When you are out in public, reach down and hold their hand. Take the first step.

3. Experiment With New Methods of Communication
You may find that your normal communication has eroded to the point where all you discuss anymore is who is picking the kids up from their after school practices and can you get milk on the way home. If that is indeed the case, then it calls for more drastic measures. Keep in mind as you read this, your spouse may not initially be receptive to these ideas. But you must be patient and be resolved to improve things.

You and your spouse are two different people and indeed have two different perspectives on your marriage and the state of your relationship. You can either work on addressing and improving your issues together or separately. But the important point is to work to identify the issues so you both are aware and keep infidelity from entering in your marriage.
And as that occurs, find ways to liven up the communication methods you use with your spouse. Be sure to include spontaneity and being some fresh new ideas into play. It may be a bit awkward at first, but if you stay the course, you will generally find your spouse comes around and appreciates your effort and indeed responds to you.