Having a GREAT relationship is entirely dependent on how you view
the Other in your relationship. If your relationships aren't ideal,
then you've got less-than-ideal thoughts zooming around in your head.
These self-defeating thoughts are often called "tapes." These tapes look
for negative aspects in the Other. They feed into any insecurities you
have. They operate from an enemy, "us versus them" mentality.
These thoughts are never true. If they make you feel bad they are not True. And, as Dr. Phil so famously says, "how's that workin' for ya?" Hmmm. And so how do you let go of these thoughts?
First, you must identify them and become conscious of them. And then, you must let go. Two simple steps.
Sometimes the most simple things are the most difficult to do -- especially when it comes to habitual patterns of thought. The energy of two flowers can help -- periwinkle with becoming more aware of the thoughts and wisteria for letting go of them.
Try this visualization:
First, think of your situation that could use improvement. Think of the relationship as it now is. Think about the aspects of that relationship (which reflect your thoughts) that you'd like to let go of.
Feel the tightness and/or heaviness that results from thinking about those negative aspects.
Then, imagine happy little shiny periwinkle flowers bringing sparkling light into that tightness, that heaviness. Feel the load begin to lighten.
And now, visualize the floppy, relaxed clusters of wisteria flowers and how they droop from their vine like clusters of grapes. Imagine your load dripping effortlessly from you as if they are being gently shaken out by the wisteria flowers bouncing in the breeze.
These thoughts are never true. If they make you feel bad they are not True. And, as Dr. Phil so famously says, "how's that workin' for ya?" Hmmm. And so how do you let go of these thoughts?
First, you must identify them and become conscious of them. And then, you must let go. Two simple steps.
Sometimes the most simple things are the most difficult to do -- especially when it comes to habitual patterns of thought. The energy of two flowers can help -- periwinkle with becoming more aware of the thoughts and wisteria for letting go of them.
Try this visualization:
First, think of your situation that could use improvement. Think of the relationship as it now is. Think about the aspects of that relationship (which reflect your thoughts) that you'd like to let go of.
Feel the tightness and/or heaviness that results from thinking about those negative aspects.
Then, imagine happy little shiny periwinkle flowers bringing sparkling light into that tightness, that heaviness. Feel the load begin to lighten.
And now, visualize the floppy, relaxed clusters of wisteria flowers and how they droop from their vine like clusters of grapes. Imagine your load dripping effortlessly from you as if they are being gently shaken out by the wisteria flowers bouncing in the breeze.
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