It’s the little things that end up destroying a marriage, but it’s also the little things that can save one. Well, according to a new book.
Yes, there is a quick fix.
But
the trick is using the quick fix, consistently. Based on the “nudge
theory” where small adaptations to a relationship applied consistently
can build a better one, Poelman provides an array of tips which are each
under the two minute mark.
And here are three of them.
Celebrate their milestones:
“Next
time your other half has good news, celebrate it properly - be it with a
bottle of something sparkling, or simply enthusing at length about how
wonderful they are,” claims Poelman in the book.
As Poelman points out, you do it for your friends, so why wouldn't you do it for your partner?
Give them a warm welcome, everyday:
Greeting your partner after time apart – whether that be for days or hours – can impact the rest of your day or evening.
If
you make the effort to greet them properly, positively and show
interest in their day, it will make the rest of yours, together, better.
“However tired or grumpy you are, make it a priority to greet your other half in a loving manner,” advises the book.
Seal it all with a kiss:
“It
sounds strange, but can you remember when you and your husband last
kissed passionately? No? Then you're not alone,” says Poelman in the book.
“Studies
show that one in five married couples go without kissing for as long as
a week at a time, often because they are simply too busy.”
Research conducted by Arizona State University which
found couples who kissed regularly were more satisfied in the
relationship, had decreased cholesterol levels and were less stressed.
So if not for your partner, do it for yourself.
