Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Ways to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Miss You and Want You Back

Make Your Ex Want You Back
Make Your Ex Want You Back

So your relationship has ended and you're far from happy about it. In your eyes, you just want to be given another chance and show her you can make her happy unlike anyone else. The thing is, your ex girlfriend might be too set in her ways and won't even consider giving you another chance. To help, here I've compiled the top 2 ways to make your ex girlfriend miss you AND want you back.

Make Her Miss You Like Crazy

Making your ex girlfriend miss you isn't really hard, but you do need the backbone to be consistent with it. But I think you might know what I'm going to say.

You need to remove your availability. When you were together, you were pretty much available to her all the time, except for when you had work duties. Now that you're apart, you need to stop allowing her to hang out with you all the time. If you're already not talking to one another, the only problem now is for you to STOP contacting her.

How do you do that without going crazy? You need to do what someone who doesn't care would do. Keep yourself busy and make some new friends to hang out with. There's something about the excitement of meeting new people that will help take your mind off things faster than if you just hanged out with old friends.

Variety is key here.

Make Her Want You Back

Making her miss you is just about discipline. Sooner or later she'll start contacting you or giving you signs that she's missing you. When this happens, you need to keep your cool and take things slow.

Stick with your plan of not settling for friendship and let her reach out to you at least 3 times in a row before moving onto a date. Remember to keep things casual and light and resist bringing up the past relationship unless you're sure she is definitely interested in coming back again.


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Sunday, 21 September 2014

Do Husbands Think That Wives Who Stay After The Affair Are Naive Or Stupid?

Survive An Affair!
Survive An Affair!

The decisions that you have to make after your husband cheats or has an affair are often grueling. And perhaps none is as quite as difficult as deciding if you're going to stay or go. Taking inventory of how you really feel and what you really want often is not quite as easy or as obvious as some might think. And unfortunately, many of us not only worry about our own thoughts and feelings, we're also worried about what other people think of us and our decision.

I recently heard from a wife who was leaning toward staying with her husband after he cheated and had an affair. This decision did not come easily and she did not take it lightly. But, the deciding factor for her was her desire to not just walk away from her marriage without first trying everything in her power to save it. Of course, every one had their own opinion on her decision. Some of her friends and family were very vocal and open with their disapproval. The wife said, in part: "my mother says that my husband is not going to have any respect for me and is going to think I'm stupid for staying with him after he cheated or had an affair. She says that he's going to think I'm a door mat so that he can continue on with his bad behavior and I'll stay no matter what. I certainly don't want this. Do men think their wives are stupid when they stay after infidelity?"

I suppose the answer to this question probably depends upon the husband, the marital history, and the circumstances surrounding the affair. So, while I don't know those factors and can't form a definitive opinion, I can tell you what many husbands tell me regarding this issue.

In My Experience, Most Men Are So Relieved Their Wives Are Staying And Standing By Them After An Affair That They Don't Make Moral Judgments: Of course, you can't say that every man is going to react in the same way or have the same feelings. But men who comment or contact me on my infidelity blog seem to be overwhelmingly relieved when their wife decides to stay with them. To be fair, the blog's topic is saving marriages after an affair so it's probably not going to attract the men who aren't interested or invested in their marriages.

But, I can't remember any husband indicating that his wife was stupid or lacking in self esteem for staying with him. In fact, many don't really question or delve too deeply into your reasons for staying. They're simply grateful that you made the decision that you did and many are looking for ways to make sure the marriage survives and that they don't cheat again.

And frankly, many men know that it is not in their best interest to be too judgmental or critical of you and your decisions when it's their decisions that got you here in the first place. A man who wants to save his marriage and make things up to his wife is hopefully not going to be dumb enough to think (or tell) that same wife that she's stupid for standing by him. Instead, he's just going to be grateful that she is and he's going to do everything in his power to make sure that this is a decision that she doesn't regret.

I occasionally have men who marvel at their wife's ability to be so forgiving. I've had some tell me that they themselves might not have reacted in the same way if the roles were reversed. But they will often tell you that this is because they are not as forgiving or as emotionally strong. They often don't see this decision as one born out of stupidity but rather one born out of emotional maturity and a forgiving nature. As a result, they often want to rise to the occasion so that you don't regret this decision.

The Decision Of Whether To Stay Or Go After Infidelity Is Yours Alone. Try Not To Worry About Anyone's Opinion: I know that this is easier said than done, but honestly, there are only two people involved here and only two people who should matter - you and your husband. Anyone else's opinion really should be irrelevant and a non factor. Only the two of you have all of the information and have to ultimately live with any decisions that you will make.

And although your husband is intimately involved in this situation, the decisions that affect your own life and well being are ultimately yours alone. If you are worried about what your husband might think of you if you decide to stay with him despite the cheating or the affair, then there's nothing wrong with sitting him down and making very clear that although you are making the decision to stay, this doesn't mean that you are stupid, lacking in self confidence, or giving him a free pass. It means that you want to stay provided that he can prove to you that staying is in your best interest because he intends to rehabilitate the marriage and himself.

A decision to stay certainly doesn't mean that the slate is going to be wiped clean or that things are just going to go back to normal. No, at least in my opinion, the decision to stay is only the beginning. It means that you're giving your husband the chance to prove to you that the marriage can be salvaged and the trust can be restored. However, the decision to stay can be changed or retracted at any time. This is being cautiously optimistic about wanting to save your marriage. It is not being stupid. You have to have the confidence that you are perfectly capable of making a sound and informed decision. And should you receive information that indicates the decision was not the right call, then you will change it or make another one. And no one else's opinion should factor into that equation but your own.

Friday, 19 September 2014

Should You Try To Salvage Your Marriage After Your Wife's Affair?

Salvage your Marriage!
Salvage Your Marriage
A marriage partner's betrayal is one of the hardest things in life to forgive. Trust is the most important component that two people can share in a marriage relationship, and is the foundation on which their future together is built. Infidelity destroys the trust that was held dear and sacred between a husband and wife, sometimes irrevocably.

When should a husband forgive his wife for cheating on him?
Several factors need to be taken into consideration when attempting to decide whether a woman should be forgiven for cheating on her husband. The question foremost in the minds of most scorned husbands is whether the affair occurred because their partner no longer loved them, or whether their partner had found another man more attractive and sexually fulfilling, in which case the affair was based solely on lust.

If a husband had been unfaithful to his wife in the past, the affair may have been based on revenge, in which case it may be easier to understand and forgive her.
Once the true motivation for the affair is uncovered, a husband will be better equipped to decide whether it is worth it to salvage the marriage. The worst case scenario for the salvaging of a marriage after an affair is when the wife admits that she no longer loves her husband, and has fallen in love with another man. In this case there is little that a husband can do to save the marriage.

However, should a husband feel that he is still in love with his wife, despite her infidelity, and if she can convince him that she still loves him, and that the affair was a meaningless once-off mistake, there is a pretty good chance that the marriage can be saved.

This decision is usually reached when a wife shows true remorse and is willing to go to great lengths in order to make it up to her husband. In some cases a casual affair can make a marriage bond stronger and cause partners to be more attentive and considerate of each others needs.

If there are children involved, a husband may be more favorably disposed towards forgiving his wife for cheating on him. There is a much stronger motivation to save a marriage for the sake of the children who need a strong foundation. However, if a husband feels that he cannot forgive his wife, not even the unhappiness of the children in the marriage will convince him to try and save it.

A commitment to a lengthy process of healing is the best way to ensure success and couples can be heartened by the fact that many other couples have succeeded in making it work. Sometimes spouses need to take personal time off from each other to work through their feelings on their own, until they are emotionally ready to face the task of rebuilding their marriage.

Marriage counseling can sometimes be invaluable as emotions are more easily kept under control, and issues can more easily be resolved in the safe environment of a professional office with the sympathetic guidance of a counselor.

Unfortunately, there are times when it is not possible to save a marriage after an affair, and it may be better for couples to part ways when it becomes clear that trust and love cannot be regained. When love and trust are gone, there is nothing left to save and a marriage without love is worse than no marriage at all.

Even worse is salvaging a marriage only to live with fighting about the affair and being unable to put it to rest. If a husband cannot move on from the fact that his wife cheated on him, the marriage is not worth salvaging.

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

4 Things You Should Do to Fix A Broken Heart


 Fix A Broken Heart
 Fix A Broken Heart
When you're going through a break up, it is really important that you know how to keep calm and handle it in the right way.  The importance of how to heal broken heart situations are some of the most basic skills that everyone should know but these lessons are not taught in school.  Getting over a break up and actually do something to fix a broken heart will be a valuable experience that allow you to resolve the next big hurdle in the relationship calmly.  Each people has their own way to heal a broken heart, but here are 4 steps that most people find really effective:

Step 1 - Understand that the issue might have been necessary to show you both your limitations.

No matter who triggered the breakup, hearts are broken each time a breakup takes place.  There are limits that couples must find in order to adjust how they work their relationship with each other.  These limits are overwhelmed sometimes and a broken heart arises.  Know that you could learn something out of this situation and move on.

Step 2 - Talk to friends regarding your break up.

Don't be negative when discussing your ex.  Ask friends the things they liked or disliked about your ex and the things they could have done wrong in the relationship.  Ask for straightforward responses about what you probably did wrong too.  Talking to friends will help to keep you grounded and get you prepared for the next step.

Step 3 - Go out on vacation.

A real vacation or a short time away will help you to have a great time and show you that you are okay without your ex lover.  You may even meet someone new or make several new friends that you could talk to about stuff that interest you.  You don't need to mention your ex throughout this time period since you'll want to have a great time.  Try to think about your ex as little as possible.  If it's not possible to take a vacation, try taking up a new hobby that keeps your mind occupied and requires concentration to keep your mind off of your ex.

Step 4 - Make alterations in your environment which help you to calm yourself and provide a calming environment that enables you to really feel great.

This will help you rest and regain a healthy mind and body that can help you to heal your broken heart.  This is a good option for those who have a busy life and simply cannot concentrate on the true goal of getting their life together to move on.

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Once a broken heart is mended or the process has brought you to a better inner peace, it may be a great opportunity to get back into a relationship.  Meeting someone new is great, but it doesn't always have to be that way. Getting back together and fix your previous relationship is also a doable alternative.  If you manage to win your ex back and working together to fix the past problem that caused the break up, you might find yourself in an even stronger and healthier relationship.

Saturday, 13 September 2014

Are These Good Reasons to Break Up With My Boyfriend?

A lot of times this question do ensue from a partner in a relationship and so the need to give an insight into it is key to making relationship work and also avoid break up.
It is very likely that the reasons why this question came up is because the one time wonderful relationship is now struggling to survive due to any of the reasons that will be mentioned here.

However despite the fact that the relationship has always been rocky and emotional, and various fights and conversations have happened which made you felt pretty sure it is not going anywhere in the end, you felt you should end it, but you are not sure.
This is not far fetched from the fact that you are just confused over a lot of things.

Below is a list of the several reasons why most young people in relationship are confused. This is based on what they consider as strong reasons to break up and other reasons why they feel they should not break up.

Reasons to break up:

1. Lack of similar interests
2. No initiative, never takes me out/suggests things to do
3. We often end up going too far sexually (he pushes my boundaries)
4. Does not care about religion or morality very much (important values for me)
5. Different morals
6. Weird ideas about the Holocaust?!
7. Emphasis on work/school as values (mine is 100% family)
8. Serious relationship, lots of drama. Often acts immature and selfish
9. I feel interested in other guys, do not feel committed
10. Sometimes wish for 'freedom'
11. Do not see marriage as a future
12. He can be unfriendly towards my family/friends
13. Is not very romantic
14. Feel lack of spiritual connection
15. Do not have great conversations

Reasons to stay together:
1. Cares genuinely about me
2. Is attractive
3. Loves me
4. Comfortable relationship
5. Want to share experiences with him
6. Want to help him and make him happy
7. Started off as good friends
8. Generally agree on relationship issues

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Well looking at the above list, it seems the bad outweighs the good.
That should really tell you that maybe you had a good shot while your love lasted but now it is time to move on to other people. If he does not respect your boundaries and your important values then in a way he does not respect you as they make up a big part of who you are.

Not saying that you should not give this a chance and try to make it work, but looking over your list makes it seem that maybe it is time to split up.

If it is your first love and then it is not unusual that it has not worked out.

 

Thursday, 11 September 2014

Divorce Advice - How to Stop My Divorce

How To Stop my Divorce
How To Stop my Divorce
If you are serious to stop your divorce, I would want you to clear all your doubtful thoughts in your mind right now. I would also urge you to stop doing anything to save your marriage because I need your highest concentration to listen to me first.

Here is my divorce advice on how to stop my divorce.

- Stop giving empty promises
Do not try to stop your divorce by reassuring your spouse with promises and continual lies. This is not going to work because your spouse is feeling tired about all your promises. He or she already knew that you are just lying to them.

- Stop declaring your undying love
Your marriage is at the brink of the divorce. Declaring your undying love is a wrong way to stop your divorce. Your spouse will not be interested to hear all these at this point of time. This is an absolutely wrong way to save your marriage.

- Never plead to stop my divorce
It is common that many people will plead to stop their divorce. You are actually showing out your neediness and desperation. Your spouse will actually think that you are a weak and emotional person. Being confident is better than showing out your neediness.

- Never try to argue or reason
Arguing or trying to reason further will make things worse. Your spouse is already feeling very angry so if you try to argue more, the angrier he or she will be.

I am sure your spouse was unhappy with the things were. You definitely need to improve and make things turn out better. Many times, a marriage failed because there was a lack of understanding in the marriage. My divorce advice to stop your divorce is to start learning how to understand your spouse.

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Tuesday, 9 September 2014

3 Tips For Fixing A Broken Heart


When you commit yourself into a relationship, you probably wouldn't have expected that, one day, you would need tips for fixing a broken heart. We all want a blissful relationship with our partner, yet in reality, when the relationship ends in a break up, we want to grab onto anything to mend our broken heart. I am here to walk through this journey with you. Thus, here are 3 tips to help you.

Tip #1: Understand What A Heartbreak Means
Before starting to repair the damages done to your heart, you have to understand what a heartbreak means. Many people fail in their process of mending their broken heart because they only know how they feel about the heartache. The key to successfully nursing and healing a heartbreak, is to understand what a heartbreak means.

Ask yourself, do you feel overwhelmed with mixed feelings of - despair,
  • anger,
  • sadness,
  • shame,
  • loss,
  • disappointment,
  • regret, etc?
List them down onto a notepad. This notepad, filled with deepest emotions, will help you to see which areas you have to work on to make yourself feel better. Once this list is up, start to work on them individually. Every time you complete a task, strike them out to let yourself know how much you have progressed and healed.
Note: Don't be afraid to list down your negative emotions. Be truthful about it. It is natural to feel all these negative feelings because when a relationship breaks up, you not only lose the company of someone you love and care about, you also lose a sense of security of your future. So start listing them down now.

Tip #2: Give Yourself Some Time To Come To Terms With The Break Up
Allowing yourself to mourn the loss of a beloved relationship, will help you a great deal in fixing your broken heart. I must bring to your attention that grief rarely comes all at once - because your body and mind will only give you what you can handle.
This means you may feel vengeful or frightened for awhile, and as you recover and may start to feel that it can return in the form of sadness or insecurity. Rest assured that your subconscious is intuitively doing this to protect you from being too overwhelmed, and that your behavior is normal.

Tip #3: Give Your Body What It Needs To Carry On Fighting For Your Happiness
In the beginning, you can become distracted by your painful emotions and neglect the voice from your body. Still, it is crucial, when you are healing from heartbreak, that you become aware of how inter-related your feelings and body state are. So it pays to treat your body with love and care, during this exhausting time of your life. You can indulge in your senses by...
  1. Visiting an art gallery or looking at nature;
  2. Listening to your favorite music artiste;
  3. Purchasing a new scent that makes you feel happy;
  4. Going to a cloth shop and touch different kinds of luxurious materials like suede, leather, silk, fur, etc;
  5. Focusing all your attention on how good your favorite food tastes.
It is crucial to give your body what it needs to continue fighting for your happiness. Because this journey of fixing a broken heart might require some time before it can come to effect.

Sunday, 7 September 2014

Advice to Stop Your Divorce – Save Your Marriage Starting Today

Stop Your Divorce
Stop Your Divorce
You've decided that you want and need to stop your divorce. Save your marriage advice is what you seek. It's not an unusual situation to be in at all. Many couples contemplate the idea of divorce or start divorce proceedings only to realize that they can't imagine a future without their spouse. If you feel this now, you owe it to yourself, your marriage and your children to try and stop the separation and rebuild the relationship. Obviously it's much easier said than done but there are ways you can work on improving the dynamic between you and your partner so one day you can both enjoy the fulfilling, loving and committed marriage you really want.
 
Talking to your spouse is the number one thing on your to do list if you want to stop your divorce. Save your marriage experts will tell you that communication is the cornerstone for any couple who wants to give their relationship a second chance. The way you communicate is paramount to whether or not you'll be successful though. You and your spouse have to agree on some rules for communicating. You have to really listen to each other and you have to take what they say to heart. Instead of trying to always defend your own position, listen to one another. You'll learn a great deal about each other this way.

A separation may feel like the first step towards the end of the marriage, but it might actually be a step towards saving it. If you or your spouse feels strongly that a separation is in order, it may be worthwhile to try it. One thing that most people don't recognize about a marital separation is that a lot of good can come of it. When a couple is living together and there is ongoing conflict, resentment and frustration will always be there. When they take some time apart, as is the case with a separation, clarity often enters the picture. They start to consider whether the issue at hand is worth losing their family over and they also begin to really miss their partner.

Many couples who decide to move ahead with a separation find that it gives them time and space to really think about whether a divorce is the best option. In many cases, it's not. If you two come to a mutual agreement that some time apart is warranted, don't lose hope. It may be the saving grace of not only your marriage, but your family too.