A lot of times this question do ensue from a partner in a
relationship and so the need to give an insight into it is key to making
relationship work and also avoid break up.
It is very likely that the reasons why this question came up is because the one time wonderful relationship is now struggling to survive due to any of the reasons that will be mentioned here.
However despite the fact that the relationship has always been rocky and emotional, and various fights and conversations have happened which made you felt pretty sure it is not going anywhere in the end, you felt you should end it, but you are not sure.
This is not far fetched from the fact that you are just confused over a lot of things.
Below is a list of the several reasons why most young people in relationship are confused. This is based on what they consider as strong reasons to break up and other reasons why they feel they should not break up.
Reasons to break up:
1. Lack of similar interests
2. No initiative, never takes me out/suggests things to do
3. We often end up going too far sexually (he pushes my boundaries)
4. Does not care about religion or morality very much (important values for me)
5. Different morals
6. Weird ideas about the Holocaust?!
7. Emphasis on work/school as values (mine is 100% family)
8. Serious relationship, lots of drama. Often acts immature and selfish
9. I feel interested in other guys, do not feel committed
10. Sometimes wish for 'freedom'
11. Do not see marriage as a future
12. He can be unfriendly towards my family/friends
13. Is not very romantic
14. Feel lack of spiritual connection
15. Do not have great conversations
Reasons to stay together:
1. Cares genuinely about me
2. Is attractive
3. Loves me
4. Comfortable relationship
5. Want to share experiences with him
6. Want to help him and make him happy
7. Started off as good friends
8. Generally agree on relationship issues
Well looking at the above list, it seems the bad outweighs the good.
That should really tell you that maybe you had a good shot while your love lasted but now it is time to move on to other people. If he does not respect your boundaries and your important values then in a way he does not respect you as they make up a big part of who you are.
Not saying that you should not give this a chance and try to make it work, but looking over your list makes it seem that maybe it is time to split up.
If it is your first love and then it is not unusual that it has not worked out.
It is very likely that the reasons why this question came up is because the one time wonderful relationship is now struggling to survive due to any of the reasons that will be mentioned here.
However despite the fact that the relationship has always been rocky and emotional, and various fights and conversations have happened which made you felt pretty sure it is not going anywhere in the end, you felt you should end it, but you are not sure.
This is not far fetched from the fact that you are just confused over a lot of things.
Below is a list of the several reasons why most young people in relationship are confused. This is based on what they consider as strong reasons to break up and other reasons why they feel they should not break up.
Reasons to break up:
1. Lack of similar interests
2. No initiative, never takes me out/suggests things to do
3. We often end up going too far sexually (he pushes my boundaries)
4. Does not care about religion or morality very much (important values for me)
5. Different morals
6. Weird ideas about the Holocaust?!
7. Emphasis on work/school as values (mine is 100% family)
8. Serious relationship, lots of drama. Often acts immature and selfish
9. I feel interested in other guys, do not feel committed
10. Sometimes wish for 'freedom'
11. Do not see marriage as a future
12. He can be unfriendly towards my family/friends
13. Is not very romantic
14. Feel lack of spiritual connection
15. Do not have great conversations
Reasons to stay together:
1. Cares genuinely about me
2. Is attractive
3. Loves me
4. Comfortable relationship
5. Want to share experiences with him
6. Want to help him and make him happy
7. Started off as good friends
8. Generally agree on relationship issues
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Well looking at the above list, it seems the bad outweighs the good.
That should really tell you that maybe you had a good shot while your love lasted but now it is time to move on to other people. If he does not respect your boundaries and your important values then in a way he does not respect you as they make up a big part of who you are.
Not saying that you should not give this a chance and try to make it work, but looking over your list makes it seem that maybe it is time to split up.
If it is your first love and then it is not unusual that it has not worked out.
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