Should You Try To Salvage Your Marriage After Your Wife's Affair?

Salvage Your Marriage

A marriage partner's betrayal is one of the hardest things in life to forgive. Trust is the most important component that two people can share in a marriage relationship, and is the foundation on which their future together is built. Infidelity destroys the trust that was held dear and sacred between a husband and wife, sometimes irrevocably.

   

 

When a woman cheats on her husband, but is repentant,the question arises whether he should forgive her and try to save the marriage. The answer to this question is as individual as the circumstances in which the cheating took place.

When should a husband forgive his wife for cheating on him?
Several factors need to be taken into consideration when attempting to decide whether a woman should be forgiven for cheating on her husband. The question foremost in the minds of most scorned husbands is whether the affair occurred because their partner no longer loved them, or whether their partner had found another man more attractive and sexually fulfilling, in which case the affair was based solely on lust.

If a husband had been unfaithful to his wife in the past, the affair may have been based on revenge, in which case it may be easier to understand and forgive her.
Once the true motivation for the affair is uncovered, a husband will be better equipped to decide whether it is worth it to salvage the marriage. The worst case scenario for the salvaging of a marriage after an affair is when the wife admits that she no longer loves her husband, and has fallen in love with another man. In this case there is little that a husband can do to save the marriage.

However, should a husband feel that he is still in love with his wife, despite her infidelity, and if she can convince him that she still loves him, and that the affair was a meaningless once-off mistake, there is a pretty good chance that the marriage can be saved.

This decision is usually reached when a wife shows true remorse and is willing to go to great lengths in order to make it up to her husband. In some cases a casual affair can make a marriage bond stronger and cause partners to be more attentive and considerate of each others needs.

If there are children involved, a husband may be more favorably disposed towards forgiving his wife for cheating on him. There is a much stronger motivation to save a marriage for the sake of the children who need a strong foundation. However, if a husband feels that he cannot forgive his wife, not even the unhappiness of the children in the marriage will convince him to try and save it.

A commitment to a lengthy process of healing is the best way to ensure success and couples can be heartened by the fact that many other couples have succeeded in making it work. Sometimes spouses need to take personal time off from each other to work through their feelings on their own, until they are emotionally ready to face the task of rebuilding their marriage.

Marriage counseling can sometimes be invaluable as emotions are more easily kept under control, and issues can more easily be resolved in the safe environment of a professional office with the sympathetic guidance of a counselor.

Unfortunately, there are times when it is not possible to save a marriage after an affair, and it may be better for couples to part ways when it becomes clear that trust and love cannot be regained. When love and trust are gone, there is nothing left to save and a marriage without love is worse than no marriage at all.

Even worse is salvaging a marriage only to live with fighting about the affair and being unable to put it to rest. If a husband cannot move on from the fact that his wife cheated on him, the marriage is not worth salvaging.