How Do You Bring An End To Your Spouse's Affair

End Your Spouse Affair

If your spouse was involved in an affair, it is their responsibility to bring it to an end. If you try to end it yourself by contacting the other person you most likely will not succeed. This is something that has to be worked out by your spouse only, and it can be more difficult if they are living some kind of fantasy love affair.

 

 

What you must do is have your spouse show that they are vested in your marriage. Your spouse must also show that when the affair has ended so has the behavior that leads to the affair in the first place. If the behavior has not changed the chance for a repeat is too great.
It sounds crazy but you will feel like your spouse holds the power now. It is up to them to end the affair, save your marriage or leave you. You do not have many options while you are waiting for the affair to end, don't feel alone for this is natural situation.

If after finding out about the affair you were filled with anger, you know you have a great sense of what is right or wrong. Do not let your self-esteem take a beating over all of this, you are not the first to experience this and you can make it through it all.
Remember that getting caught cheating was not part of your spouse's plan. Now they have to make a choice between you and saving the relationship and marriage or continuing their relationship with the other person. They have been put in a position they did not foresee happening.

To help your spouse make the right decision you need to be the one with a clear vision of what to do.

Below are three tips that can help you out.

1. Some people are able to give their spouse time to put an end to their relationship. There may be a small minority that will put up with it, but if you can stand the fact your spouse is with someone else it's time to for you to make a choice. Do you stay and try to save your marriage or do you move on? You must decide what you want.

2. It may be hard to make a good decision right after finding out your spouse has been cheating on you; your anger will cloud your judgment. Once a few days have passed you will be thinking more clearly and can make more rational decisions. Will you stay with your spouse until they make a decision about stopping the affair? This and other decisions must be made by you so you can move forward to save the marriage or move on.

3. Once you have made your decision give your spouse what you want and expect. Give them a timeline so they will not drag out the situation forever. Be firm and confident so they know you mean business and they can't get over on you. Since you cannot change who they are the best you can do is influence how they act so they will behave better in the future.

Hopefully these tips can get you started on the right path to saving your marriage. You may have many years invested in the relationship or have been married for a few months. Either way a marriage can be saved after an affair.