5 Steps to Dealing With Adultery!

 I know I don't need me to tell you how painful dealing with adultery is because you are living it right now. My hope is that you are making strides in dealing with the affair, and on your way to restoring your relationship. As hard as it seems right now, you can actually make reasonable progress in dealing with adultery committed by your spouse if you follow the 5 steps below.

Although the act of committing adultery is one of those marriage busting issues, I want you to know that there is still hope. I know you probably don't see right now how you can stay with your partner who has betrayed you and who makes you sick. You probably feel like hanging him/her out to dry for destroying you emotionally. Your ability to restrain yourself in the face of daunting disappointment from your better half might actually favour you in the long run if you aim to salvage the marriage.

Putting your life back together after dealing with adultery requires a few things on your part and for your spouse, with the main things being having a will to make things right and a little knowledge on how to get what you want.

Tips for dealing with adultery

1. Don't procrastinate - Dealing with an affair in your relationship requires you to do things that can move you in the right direction. I suggest that you not wait for things to start getting better. If you want to speed up your healing and recovery then start hashing out the problems with your spouse. You can seek help through counselling. Both of you must agree to do this.

2. Set your rules for dealing with adultery - There are many instances where because the spouses simply are not sure what to do, they end up continuing to do nothing and let the unfaithfulness drive them apart for good. It's important that you set some expectations and boundaries. For example, perhaps you should let your partner know that you expect no further interaction with the other person going forward. You could also let your partner know that he/she must do more to rebuild the trust previously earned.

3. Find your safety zone - The pain that you are experiencing is like no other and can overwhelm you if you are not careful. You need relief at times when dealing with adultery so make sure you know where to turn for moments of peace and joy. For example, if you like to run or take walks do so and make sure you don't dwell on the affair while looking for a bit of peace.

4. Plan on forgiving your cheating partner - I have no idea, why your partner decided to have an affair and for that matter it's none of my business. However, regardless of the reason, your healing after adultery will only be complete when you get to the place where you can forgive your cheating mate.

5. Set realistic goals for getting beyond the adultery - No one can tell you when dealing with adultery will be a thing of your past. I wish I could tell you that it takes a month or 3 months but I would be guessing and that' not helpful for you. Make little goals that you can achieve and you will start to see the light at the end of a very dark tunnel you are traveling through.

Dealing with adultery can easily make you want to walk away. I applaud you for seeking the strength, courage and wisdom to recover and restore your relationship after an affair.

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