Cheating Spouse Caught - 5 Don'ts to Keep in Mind When You Are Confronting Your Cheating Partner!

What usually takes place after you learned that you have a cheating spouse or lover is a confrontation but you might not know that there are 5 things you must remember not to do when you want to confront them. It is important to learn about these 5 don'ts because in your fury and hurt, you might do things rashly and if you confront your spouse without a proper plan in mind, you might endanger your life! 

You also need to consider that your action would get a reaction. Are you ready for the reaction? And what would it be? Total denial or would it be partial acceptance. You must be ready for various types of reactions. 

So here are the 5 dont's for you:

1. Don't endanger your own life

You are the best person to judge whether your spouse is an abusive person, so apply caution when you are confronting your partner. If you know very well that your spouse can become verbally or physically abusive when you bring up their cheating issue, make sure you have a close friend or relative or even the police around. If your marriage is an abusive one or there are signs that your partner has developed abusive tendencies towards you after which you have now caught your spouse cheating behind your back, it might be a good idea to end your relationship once and for all. Should your spouse turn violent when you confront him/her, get out of the house immediately and do not return till your spouse is away or if you have the police with you. It is definitely not worthwhile endangering your own life for a cheating spouse!

2. Don't confront your spouse alone

As mentioned above, it is probably best to have someone with you when you are confronting your spouse about his/her cheating ways even if your spouse had never turned violent on you before. You never know how strongly your spouse might react to a confrontation or to see the evidence presented, especially if you have decided to end your marriage. You must ensure that whoever you confront your spouse with understands what you intend to achieve and and has lot of influence over your partner. This way your partner ‘s reaction is mellowed down.

3. Don't confront your spouse in front of your children

Even though it is always safer to have someone with you when you are confronting your spouse, never do it in front of your kids, regardless of their age. It is unfair to drag your older kids into your messy relationship problems as they can understand what you are talking about and it will only serve to detriment their psychological development. Even if your kids are newborns or toddlers and will not understand what you are quarreling about, they might be terrified by the raised voices during your arguments.

The truth is children tend to take sides against a parent if they are too strict with them and having such a confrontation in their presence might affect them psychologically which might lead to traumatic experience for them. They might not be able to fully interprete what is going on and this might have an adverse effect on them in later life. That, I am sure, you do not want to happen.

4. Don't confront without any solid proof

If you have only heard rumours about your spouse's cheating deeds but do not have any solid evidence gathered, do not confront your spouse yet! Make sure you find ways to gather any possibly available evidence first, for example, suspicious credit card bills from hotels or vacations which you do not know about or trail your spouse for a few days to check on their activities. You might even want to consider hiring a private investigator to gather evidence if you can afford it! The important thing is to never not to jump to conclusion right away as your spouse might not even have cheated on you and such an accusation will only break up an otherwise healthy relationship!

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5. Don't do it if you do not have a plan in mind

If you have gathered sufficient evidence to proof that your spouse has cheated on you and you want to confront him/her, have you planned how you are going to face each other after that? Are you going to leave the house if your spouse refused to? Can you still remain in the same house with a cheating spouse? If you are a parent, have you thought about what's going to happen to them? Unless you plan to salvage your relationship and want to listen to your partner's explanations, make sure you have a plan on where you are going to after the confrontation before you proceed to expose your spouse.

Having a plan to follow after you confront your partner would ensure that you secure your future. If you plan to salvage the relationship, your plan must include steps both of you must take to rebuild the relationship. Do you need to go for counseling? Etc. This are things you must consider  because it would be too late if you wait till after the confrontation before you develop a plan.

The above are 5 things you must remember not to do when you want to confront your cheating spouse or lover. If you think that you have a wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend who has been cheating on you, stop being a victim and learn How To Catch A Cheat.