Why Do People Cheat on their loved ones?

So why do people cheat? Ultimately, people cheat because their needs are not being met, whether these are emotional, relational, or sexual needs. That’s the number one reason that people give for cheating. Of course, we don’t know whether these reasons are also excuses that people come up with afterwards when researchers are asking them Maybe sometimes it’s pure indulgence for some people. Some people are hedonists and they believe in seeking out pleasure and pleasure above all. Some people are sociopathic narcissists and they simply don’t care; they don’t have guilt or remorse and they take whatever comes their way. So, people cheat for a variety of reasons.

However, most commonly given reasons are unmet needs in the relationship. So, if you’re not being heard, if you’re being unappreciated, if you’re emotionally abused, if you’re ignored, if you’re feeling taken for granted – that’s a big one – you will be more predisposed to cheat. If your sex life has dried up, if it seems like you’re not really connecting anymore or if it unsatisfying and somebody else comes along who seems exciting and interesting and sexually attractive, of course, you would be prone to cheat as well. And morality, religiosity, all of those things also play into the desire to cheat as well. And cultural norms, if you’re in a culture that’s more permissive about polyamory, perhaps you’re more likely as well to be open to infidelity.

So, there is not one reason.

However, to avoid cheating, look for unmet needs and negotiate, compromise, talk about them, communicate as much as possible because a lot of partners are willing to actually meet their partner’s needs if that partner just lets them know that, "This is what I need. I need more hugs, I need more compliments, I need to be dating, I need more courtship, I need more attention," you know, "perhaps I want to try something different sexually, I wanna be a little more adventuresome," And communicating those needs to your partner is paramount to keeping your relationship vital and alive.

How to Catch Cheating Husband.

You have taken the sacred vows, "FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE" to be together forever. But you've seen the video, and you're 100% percent sure that was him with another woman. What do you do?

A lot of women would feel you have to choose any of 3 decisions:

1. Throw Him out of the house and divorce him.
2. Forgive Him and move on.
3. Run away from the issue and never bring it up.

The 3rd option is a definite 'NO' and it would not make any difference to the issues already existing, so don't let it linger on your mind as an option to take. You are left with two options which includes Saving your Marriage by forgiving him or filing for Divorce are skinning him alive!!

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Divorcing Your Husband 

Divorcing your life partner  - when he has been caught on video - seems like the only option, at least initially. If you throw your cheating husband out, he would have to pay for his indiscretions, and this sends a message that your emotions are not to be played with.

Admittedly, kicking him out may seem like a very easy thing to do because he did you wrong. But, when you double check, it's hard to make such a big decision almost impulsively. Both of you took vows to dedicate your lives for each other and to each other, to look out for each other - to be with each other during good times and not so good times. So... even though you are extremely hurt by what he's done, you're not sure you can just give up on what's left of the marriage (if there is anything left).

If you choose to divorce him, make sure that you really want to take this decision. You may have a million questions to ask him - and the right time to ask is now, since these answers would determine the future quality of your relationship. Truthfully, your questions may never get answered if you don't talk to him now before it's too late.

Furthermore, communication has always been key to maintaining harmony in a relationship, and his infidelity is a big sign that there has been a large communication gap between the two of you. If, after talking it out completely with him, and nothing good is still coming out of it, it is only then that you consider a permanent separation.


Forgiving Him

Forgive him and move on? This is more difficult to do, especially at the onset of finding out about his infidelity. You may not want to let your husband for several reasons - maybe you cannot provide for yourself, or you simply can't imagine yourself living alone.
If these are your answers, then you are in trouble. With these answers as your reasons, you will get nothing in return, but depression. Even though it isn't right for a husband to blatantly cheat on his wife, she should never put herself in a financially dependent position.

If you so dearly want to forgive him, and continue your lives together, you have to understand why he acted that way, and why you want him back. I once again encourage communication. You have to understand why he cheated on you. If there's something unsatisfactory in your marriage, then you need to take responsibility to help fix it. But if he's a blatant cheating idiot, you need to step and tell him to kick that BS elsewhere!

Wish you luck in the decision you make.